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From the archives . . .

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Sifting through some of my saved writing and I stumbled across this piece.  I was enrolled in a writing class and this piece was my response to the assigned prompt.

I write often about change, but this little gem is probably one of my favorites as it serves up the subject of change in its’ many shapes and forms.   I hope you enjoy it and can relate in some way or another.

Change can come in

like a rug being yanked out

from beneath your firmly planted feet

sending you twisting and tumbling down

a long descent of stairs


When you come to rest

choose carefully

Will you lie there lifeless? Defeated?

Or will you spring to your feet

bounding up each step as if it were your first

marveling at the journey

refreshed by the beauty

of new choices?


Change can happen

so slowly and stealthily

nearly undetectable as it inches in

creeping up on you and swallowing you whole

before you realize nothing is the same


When you discover yourself

in a new landscape or mindset

will you kick and scream?

Will you close your eyes to it all?

The walls you built up seemed so strong

will they now crumble?

Or will you perch high a-top the walls of change

Embrace the vantage point

and fly?


Who Says Who’s Cool, Anyhow?

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Sitting at dinner the other night with amazing friends and the conversation turned to FOMO . . . the dreaded fear of missing out. Those of us presently seated together unanimously agreed that none of us suffered from this affliction. Sure, there’d been a time or two where friends were doing something where we thought, “Now that would be a great experience!” What we quickly realized, and perhaps one of the many reasons we have become such quick and true friends, is because of our ability to live in the moment. To appreciate who we are with at the moment, where we are and what we are doing.

Too often, many of us can not truly keep ourselves in the moment. We see a social media post of friends doing something that looks so much greater than our current experience and we think, “Ugh, I should be with them.”

In the midst of this conversation this friend, who is one of the singly most amazing women I have ever met and can truly call “friend,” remarked that she was never one of the “cool kids” and she was A-ok with that status. It didn’t bother her when she was younger and it sure as hell didn’t affect her life now either. And I will tell you this, if you know her, you know she’s telling the truth!

Her remark has been nagging at me for a few days for so many reasons. First, I personally think she is “THE Coolest Kid” and quite frankly, I’m happy I don’t have to share her with others who aren’t sincere in calling her “friend.” This world is full of people who say one thing yet mean another. They say things like “I Love You” and “trust me!” But those words are simply empty words. They turn around at the very next opportunity and talk crap about others behind their backs. They stir up trouble and drama and create self-doubt in those who surround them. Well if that’s what defines “cool” then I am sure as hell relieved to not fit that classification.

Surround yourself with real people who care about you and not about what you can do for them or how being in your presence will make them look better. Genuine and real is far cooler than having a huge fan base. So by my definition, you are one of the “cool kids!”

Love you Barb!


Oh! The Places You Would Go!

Change is inevitable.  It is going to happen over and over again every single day of your life.

You can make yourself crazy resisting change but that would be like riding your brake as you drive down the road.   Life is pushing you forward yet you’re applying the brakes for no reason other than just a lack of trust or faith.

Faith and trust are what protect us from fear.  Without these things… without faith we would be paralyzed by our fears.   Its faith in our legs to hold us up that gives us the confidence to stand.  It’s the faith in knowing we will receive a paycheck that allows us to get up and go to work.   We know these things are going to take place.   We have faith and therefore, they happen.

IF only we could have this same level of faith and trust in all aspects of our life.  As Dr. Suess say’s  “Oh, the Places you will go!”

Looking back on changes in my life . . . major changes . . . those that presented the most fear. Reflecting on those changes or decisions that caused me the most stress, the most fear– those were the changes that affected the most growth. And such an incredible reminder!

What is the last thing you did that truly frightened you? How did you grow from it? And what is holding you back now? What fear has you paralyzed? Maybe it’s time to act upon it and shed that fear and allow yourself to fly. Remember how good it felt last time?

Have faith in yourself.